Anger’s a highly misunderstood and underappreciated emotion that’s simply doing its job and trying to get our attention to consider what may not be working so well in our life. Instead of embracing our anger and trying to learn from it, we’ll do other things, like let it run wild, try to bury it, and… Continue reading Embracing Our Anger to Understand It Better
Anger is treated like an evil force in nature. Dark. Destructive. Scary. Psychologists describe it as an emotional response to a real or imagined “wrong” or injustice or when things don’t go the way we’d like, and we resist present-moment reality. Typically, it’s experienced as a secondary emotion when our feelings are hurt, and we… Continue reading Seeing Red: Is There an Upside to Anger?
Self-criticism is a common aspect of our personality that most people will wrestle with in life. I certainly do, and let’s be honest…it can be brutal. While I believe self-criticism helps keep me dialed into life assessment, including my faults and limitations, it’s a double-edged sword that can be disastrous if I don’t keep it… Continue reading The Good and Bad of Self-Criticism
When I’m working on personal change, as I assess myself and the world around me, a lot of things start happening. I’m hyperaware of people behaving the way I’m trying to change. I see it everywhere. In fact, I can't not see it! So, I get a little irritated by their poor choices. Then, I… Continue reading When Feeling Hyperaware is a Good Thing
There’s an unexpected and strange happening as we walk the path of growth and healing. What once sat well with us, no longer does. The disruption, chaos, or discomfort that didn’t bother us before, now causes irritation, frustration, and anger. And we may even find times we can’t understand the sudden sadness, resentment, or fear… Continue reading Nudged Out of Neutral
It's human nature to feel the need "to-do". Most of us are compelled towards something that drives us, challenges us, or entertains us. We like to have goals and along with these goals are preferences and opinions of how we want life to be, or wish it would be. The trouble begins when our expectations… Continue reading A Million Little Steps That Make Life Good
Sometimes it's way too easy to feel we're too far behind, so overwhelmed, or so down, that it seems impossible to get ahead, find balance or climb up from the down. Enough with beating ourselves up! Reality check...it's not just us. Everyone has times like these in life. It's a part of life that appears… Continue reading A Simple Intention to Get the Ball Rolling
The truth is we are not a failure by not succeeding in something which truly isn't valuable to us. The failure has already happened before it's even begun. The failure is in our perception of what we "think" will make our life more satisfactory, more content.
Life is about learning and growth, and some days the best we can do is simply show up. Some days, our "best" feels worse than not good enough, it feels pathetic. But, that doesn't have to be the end of our story. What can we do on a "bad" day? Continue to show up! Just… Continue reading Just Keep Showing Up Through Good or Bad Times
There's an innate drive to improve our lives and our greatest power of influence lies in the present moment. Strong values, clarity in our goals and dedication to reaching those goals is the key to making optimal choices each and every moment. This is how we shape our tomorrow.