Anger’s a highly misunderstood and underappreciated emotion that’s simply doing its job and trying to get our attention to consider what may not be working so well in our life. Instead of embracing our anger and trying to learn from it, we’ll do other things, like let it run wild, try to bury it, and… Continue reading Embracing Our Anger to Understand It Better
Endings are considered the finish, closing, conclusion and resolution of something. It can be a period of time, a book or movie, and activities. So, when what you’re doing lifts you up, brings you joy and entertainment, stimulation and growth, connection, satisfaction and fulfillment, endings can stir feelings of sadness. “Every new beginning comes from… Continue reading The Beauty of Endings and Beginnings
Shame is a powerful tool and millions of people use it to control others. It's oppressive, and it exploits our desperate need to avoid embarrassment or social retaliation. It can hold us captive in a state of fear of humiliation and distress with no hope or belief in our ability to recover. I've been on… Continue reading How Fear of Shame Influences our Choices
The sun is always shining. To be in the light simply depends on where we're standing. Being in the dark does not and IS NOT permanent. When we keep moving, we move through the dark times, and can once again step into the light that illuminates our path and provides optimism and hope. We can never get to where we want to be by standing where we are now. The earth maintains balance by altering sunlight and darkness. It must in order to exist. The same is true for life. Taking time to observer nature can help us to reconnect with this truth! We have the capability to make it through if we continue to believe.
Moving on from how uncertainty builds resiliency, I wanted to dig a little deeper into the compulsion of certainty because nowadays, people seem to crave certainty more than ever. We crave the certainty of success in work, relationships, investments, spirituality, and sports. The desire for certainty has replaced what used to be a “leap of… Continue reading Recognizing the Deficiency in Certainty
Uncertainty asks us to be persistent in our struggles, resolute in our setbacks, and determined in staying committed until we achieve our desired results. Uncertainty calls on our character. It tests it. It responds to it. It builds it. And ultimately, it will reward it. The thing is, we’ll never know what would or could… Continue reading Uncertainty Reinforces Our Resiliency
The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity. Erich Fromm Avoiding challenge may spare us some pain and effort in the short run, but it doesn't yield the glorious and long-term results like meeting a new challenge which calls for courage, and demands improvement… Continue reading Making Room for Insecurity
Why must there be struggle? I think it's fair to say, nobody wants struggle, welcomes struggle or appreciates struggle. Typically, it's avoided at all costs. Struggle is defined as "make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction." Forceful? Violent? Doesn't sound appealing, right? So, why embrace it? Because struggle is, has… Continue reading Embracing the Inevitable Struggles
It’s been a busy few weeks for me. My kids started school on Monday and as you could imagine, we were saddled with a long list of “to dos” and we dutifully worked through them; however, this year felt so different. Of course it felt different. In fact, it’s very, very different! In the past,… Continue reading The Precarious Adventure Into the Unknown
Life is constantly evolving and although change can be frightening with it's undiscovered and unexplored territory, it also allows a place for new growth. I revisit this truth in life often with my children. My hope is to help them, as budding teenagers, to not only welcome change but seek it out for the rest… Continue reading How Butterflies Symbolize the Hope and Beauty in Life Change
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