Anger is treated like an evil force in nature. Dark. Destructive. Scary. Psychologists describe it as an emotional response to a real or imagined “wrong” or injustice or when things don’t go the way we’d like, and we resist present-moment reality. Typically, it’s experienced as a secondary emotion when our feelings are hurt, and we… Continue reading Seeing Red: Is There an Upside to Anger?
My last blog highlighted seeing our undesired behavior in others. What starts as a lesson in grace and patience for others and ourselves, can quickly morph into a dark battle within us if left unchecked. How? Because, in noticing these unwanted behaviors playing out around and within us, we can fall into a loop of… Continue reading Handling Rumination on the Road to Change
Self-criticism is a common aspect of our personality that most people will wrestle with in life. I certainly do, and let’s be honest…it can be brutal. While I believe self-criticism helps keep me dialed into life assessment, including my faults and limitations, it’s a double-edged sword that can be disastrous if I don’t keep it… Continue reading The Good and Bad of Self-Criticism
Life is about learning and growth, and some days the best we can do is simply show up. Some days, our "best" feels worse than not good enough, it feels pathetic. But, that doesn't have to be the end of our story. What can we do on a "bad" day? Continue to show up! Just… Continue reading Just Keep Showing Up Through Good or Bad Times
Regret suggests feelings of sadness, disappointment, and unhappiness over something that’s been done, particularly when we feel we’ve missed an opportunity. It’s hindsight. Well, it’s true that hindsight is 20/20, and by definition, only comes after something has passed, so of course we can clearly see the better option or missed opportunity, later on. But… Continue reading Regret Isn’t Always a Bad Thing
Many times, people grow insecure by the passion and determination of others invested in healthy and positive lifestyle changes. They use sarcasm as an attempt to diffuse their self-judgment and insecurity. The art of sarcasm. You may know someone who is exceptionally gifted in delivering sarcasm. It’s defined as “the use of irony to mock… Continue reading The Bitterness of Sarcastic Remarks
Sometimes, like it or not, we can’t stop our feelings. Yeah, times like these, our feelings interrupt our best intentions for change. Intended changes, in perception, attitude, reaction, and action we’d like to happen, get derailed as strong feelings hijack our focus for attempt to introduce new behavior. Jealousy, insecurity, perceived unfairness, disrespect, abandonment, or… Continue reading I Can’t Stop This Feeling
Mistakes have become a dirty word. Inappropriately so! Mistakes are part of the machine of learning. Rare you will find in history immediate and complete perfection on the first try. If you do, please share it with me. 😉 Brilliant mistakes have given this world some amazing gifts. Like penicillin, the pacemaker and the beloved… Continue reading Accepting Mistakes and Not Giving Up
When I'm focused on heading a new direction, I'm pumped up and ready to take-action but first I take stock of troublesome behaviors, because I've got to be doing some things that undoubtedly don't serve my betterment. I need to make space for more helpful habits by removing ones that are heavy, negative weight. A… Continue reading Habits That Hold Us Down
Ugh, negative self-talk. In my opinion, it's one of the most destructive forces of nature. A tsunami that wreaks havoc on our inner peace. Sadly, this kind of internal dialogue plagues most people. Yep. Not many people have eluded this phenomenon and unless we’ve had guidance in processing and dissolving negative self-talk, we create a… Continue reading The Nasty Nature of Negative Self-Talk
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