Anger is treated like an evil force in nature. Dark. Destructive. Scary. Psychologists describe it as an emotional response to a real or imagined “wrong” or injustice or when things don’t go the way we’d like, and we resist present-moment reality. Typically, it’s experienced as a secondary emotion when our feelings are hurt, and we… Continue reading Seeing Red: Is There an Upside to Anger?
My last blog highlighted seeing our undesired behavior in others. What starts as a lesson in grace and patience for others and ourselves, can quickly morph into a dark battle within us if left unchecked. How? Because, in noticing these unwanted behaviors playing out around and within us, we can fall into a loop of… Continue reading Handling Rumination on the Road to Change
Shame is a powerful tool and millions of people use it to control others. It's oppressive, and it exploits our desperate need to avoid embarrassment or social retaliation. It can hold us captive in a state of fear of humiliation and distress with no hope or belief in our ability to recover. I've been on… Continue reading How Fear of Shame Influences our Choices
a warm hug that instantly comforts you that you’re not alone a soft and reassuring pat on the back that says, “It’s going to be alright” encouragement to be true to your heart and stay your course an affirmation that because you’re doing your best, life can get better someone cares how you feel you… Continue reading Kindness feels like…
Regret suggests feelings of sadness, disappointment, and unhappiness over something that’s been done, particularly when we feel we’ve missed an opportunity. It’s hindsight. Well, it’s true that hindsight is 20/20, and by definition, only comes after something has passed, so of course we can clearly see the better option or missed opportunity, later on. But… Continue reading Regret Isn’t Always a Bad Thing
You may doubt there’s an upside to dealing with the difficult people in our lives, but there is. And while it’s never easy, I discovered it’s also a learning opportunity. This is bravery: using the challenge of daily life to sharpen our mind and open our heart. Sakyong Mipham Early on, I used to feel… Continue reading The Upside of Difficult People in Our Life
Sometimes, like it or not, we can’t stop our feelings. Yeah, times like these, our feelings interrupt our best intentions for change. Intended changes, in perception, attitude, reaction, and action we’d like to happen, get derailed as strong feelings hijack our focus for attempt to introduce new behavior. Jealousy, insecurity, perceived unfairness, disrespect, abandonment, or… Continue reading I Can’t Stop This Feeling
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.”Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose Can you fill in the rest of this sentence? "I'd… Continue reading I’d Be Happy If Only…
Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought."Napoleon Hill Be intentional in what thoughts are planted in the mind. They influences our focus. Our actions. And ultimately our satisfaction in life. Keep it Simple, Just Teri
Having our feelings hurt is a sign. It lets us know that either a boundary has been violated or perhaps we need to construct a boundary. If we're treated in a way that we have defined as unacceptable because it's inconsiderate, unkind or disrespectful, being hurt let's us know the line was crossed. Now what?… Continue reading No One Wants Their Feelings Hurt
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