Life is much more manageable when we find like-minded people. This I learned in my early days of awakening to my path of self-discovery. I quickly realized I was alone. Not many people seemed content, or had any curiosity or interest in expanding themselves. They definitely weren’t thriving. They were just getting by, just making it through the day, just “there”.
With my eyes newly opened, I wanted more. No, I needed more. I needed to find like-minded people who were digging below the superficiality of the material world and embracing what was there, born within us, but unknowingly disconnected through socialization. The need for love, connection, true peace and joy was found in nothing that money could buy.
So, I went to find like-minded people.
The values of the world we inhabit and the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on who we are.Malcolm Gladwell
You know what I found? People just didn’t think too much about what’s deeper than what’s on the surface. Hypnotized by the illusions the rich and famous cultivate. Asking questions that required more thought than their latest adventure, latest gossip, sports scores, new purchases, or celebrity news, they gave me an irritated look that said, “What are you even talking about?”, or a lost look of “Huh?” They’d say I was thinking “too deep” and “don’t give it too much time or energy”. I should “just lighten up and have fun!”
To be fair, this was in the early 1990s and people just didn’t think too deeply about much of anything. It was a social stigma to look too closely into our psyche and that was left for people who needed a “shrink”, as they were called in those days. Nowadays, it’s common and socially acceptable, if not hip, to see a therapist. Not only for people healing past-tragedies, now it’s a sign of “self-care and betterment”. Which is absolutely true!
So, I took a simpler, non-intrusive route. I learned to listen closely to people’s stories. I filtered certain words, attitudes and especially behavior. Things that suggested balance, forgiveness, patience, compassion, self-care, boundaries and all-around positive attitude captured my interest. These were the like-minded people I sought out for conversation and knew I’d find “good input”.
I learned to limit or steer clear of people that consistently said things like judgment, jealousy, anger and irritation, vengeance, or martyrdom. Before I’d read Jim Rohn’s famous quote, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with”, I felt this truth intuitively, as well as the weight of their negativity and so guarded my newly acquired mission vigilantly.
I met so many people in my early days of personal growth. In fact, I firmly believe being open and receptive was a beacon that drew other awakened people to me, at the right time. (Please note I’m not referring to being “culturally woke). These were people who also had their antennae up for people like me and when I popped onto their radar, they connected.
Here’s the deal. It’s always helpful to have a buddy of like-mind to talk to when we leave the well-worn path of our culture’s social norm. It’s powerful to find someone to share our struggles with, find alternative ways of seeing the world and our interaction with it, i.e. healthier attitudes, values and beliefs.
Five types of people you want to surround yourself with: the inspired, the passionate, the motivated, the grateful, and the open minded.Author Unknown
It’s mutually beneficial to find someone to brainstorm ideas for handling ways to minimize miscommunication, confrontation, control issues or being self-critical, because it’s a gradual process. Take it from me, it’s not brave or strong or extraordinary to fly solo. It’s unnecessary. We’re not meant to go it alone. The buddy system serves to help navigate and, also comfort, inspire and uplift. So, please don’t deny yourself the benefit of finding a like-mind on your journey of the path least taken. It can make a world of difference ❤
Keep it Simple,