Becoming a Better Observer

It’s a new day. We’ve had a significant shift in self-awareness and we’re on a new path. We’re committed to growing into the life we want, a life we believe is possible. So, what do we do next? There is one simple thing we can do. We become a better observer.

Here I give caution to set moderate and sensible expectations of ourselves because when we become more observant of our life, we just may see some displeasing things that cause embarrassment and disappointment. Trust me on this. Just because we want to live a better life, it’s not instantaneous. It’s a slow process in the beginning. 😉

“Awareness precedes choice and choice precedes results.”

Robin S. Sharma

In my experience, in order to move forward, we need to get really, really good at watching our thoughts, behaviors and actions. Right now, our only expectation is becoming more observant. It’s a crucial factor in our self-discovery. We need to be vigilant in observing how we operate in life each day. This may not sound hard, oh but it is! Because it’s so easy to disengage awareness, go on auto-pilot and stay put in the same-old way of living.

When it comes to observing, be intentional to witness yourself and your surroundings, put away distractions and make it a point to record unacceptable situations because these are typically the ones we’re trying to modify. We need to assess where we are now to help guide us to where we want to be.

Here are a few questions to consider when experiencing undesirable outcomes:

What is happening that triggers my unpleasant or negative emotions?

What is my part that contributes to these feelings?

What was the subsequent outcome of my actions?

Notice the common thread here? It’s us. We’re the common thread in all situations regarding our life. It’s how we act and react that shapes our daily life. Just like the captain can’t control the ocean, only his vessel, we can’t control life. It’s too complex, too vast, too variant and all the factors out there in life combine to create a stimulus that isn’t within our control. What we can control, however, is our reaction to it.

When we take notice of our environment and how we interact with it, we’ve made space for awareness and create an opportunity to become better at understanding what events trigger our strengths and weaknesses to be capable of making adjustments or improvements for the next time this occurs. This is learning. This encourages growth.

Nothing has such power to broaden the mind as the ability to investigate systematically and truly all that comes under thy observation in life.

Marcus Aurelius

This slow and steady acquisition of self-knowledge becomes a tool so we may choose to act in ways that bring us less struggle, greater satisfaction, and consequently, more peace. It’s worth the effort. We deserve it! ❤

Keep it Simple,

Just Teri

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