There are times in our life where we enter unfamiliar territory. New ideas. New goals. New challenges. And, a lot of new concerns usually accompanied by confusion and insecurity. When I find myself in a place of transition, I seek information from books, websites, and certainly advice from someone with reliable first-hand experience. While it’s good to gather information, it’s crucial what we do with it.
Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.”Bruce Lee
Although there is no one-way to handle who’s advice to follow, there is a critical box that’s good to check which can endorse our decision. Nosce te ipsum. Know thyself. In knowing ourselves, we recognize our strengths and weaknesses, our beliefs, our priorities, and our daily responsibilities and can use this knowledge to create standards to measure the validity of any advice we’re given and determine if we believe it’s what’s best for us!
Advice is merely the personal account of how someone else has chosen and their results based on their personal circumstances and events. It’s information, ideas, instruction, suggestions and tips, and ultimately, it’s data from one person’s experience. Remember, no two journeys are the same and there are no guarantees of the same outcome. We’re hearing a recount of their story and we’re free to follow their steps, head the opposite direction or blend a little bit of various suggestions to create a path unique to us.
At the end of the day, we need to trust our intuition and make a decision we can live with because we alone suffer the consequences. I’d rather live life fully and courageously on my own terms, for better or worse, than to follow someone else’s advice because I doubted myself. I prefer to say “I did my best!” and reap the growth from life-experience.
Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.”Victoria Holt
Keep it Simple,