Awareness, Choices, Growth

Hear Ye, Hear Ye…Change Is On Its Way

It’s interesting that the moment we’re committed to a new frame of mind, one that sets new boundaries, which triggers new corresponding actions, we want to declare it. We feel healthy and certain of our new behavior approach and believe we should give everyone a heads up of what to expect. Because undoubtedly, they’ll notice the difference.

It could be we want to prepare them for the change saying, “This is the new me”. “This is the new way I’m going to handle this”. It’s possible we worry about their reaction because it will break the old interactive pattern. You know the one. We say this…they say that…we respond with this…they respond with that. It’s a conversational dance we’ve done hundreds of times if not more. We don’t know what to expect when we change the dance. Will they be receptive? Will they resist?   

We can’t deny our growth just to spare another’s discomfort. Ultimately, they’ll figure out how to handle it.”

As much as we feel compelled to give them a heads up, we don’t need to warn them that change is coming their way. If anything, it can trigger an unnecessary confrontation about our impending change. Change in behavior insights fear in people because change is unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and uncertain. People typically prefer what’s predictable. What’s automatic and easier. This way they don’t have to take time to process the new information that requires a new response, or the courage to self-reflect followed by the energy and thoughtfulness it takes  to assess old, unhealthy attitudes or beliefs and the commitment it takes to create a new approach.

No, we don’t have to say a word. This is our new attitude and our new direction. It doesn’t need to be telegraphed because we’re not responsible for their reaction and it’s beyond our ability to control anyway. It doesn’t seem possible, but our change will indeed create change without trying to control others.

The world will never stop changing. Sometimes it changes us and sometimes we change it. Nevertheless, change is inevitable and unavoidable.”

The best we can do is go into any encounter having no expectations for someone to be on the same page as us but the dedication that, regardless of the end results, we’ve behaved with kindness and respect for not only our opposer, but ourselves. Change is a personal journey and when we consistently behave in a way that’s congruent with our belief system, we increase the possibility to create a new, healthier reality and feel the peace that comes with it. Does this sound good?

Keep it Simple,

Just Teri

12 thoughts on “Hear Ye, Hear Ye…Change Is On Its Way”

    1. That’s a great point!! I’m so glad you took time to comment.

      Its true how it can put pressure on us to stick to our declaration. Excellent if it’s motivational, bad if it adds extra stress (or ridicule) 😉

      Thanks 😊

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  2. I’ve found that anytime I announce a “personal change,” to anyone, I almost immediately take steps backward. It has nothing to do with them… it must be some kind of mental game I play with myself or something because once I let the cat out of the bag, I’m certain that I just jinxed myself. I don’t know. I just know that my most positive and successful changes have come about while staying focused on the positive remaining silent about it. I don’t think that’s exactly what you were referring to, but it’s close enough. 🙂 Thanks for sharing Teri, wishing you an awesome week and weekend ahead!

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    1. I always enjoy your take Janet. Yes, it does seem that we can jinx ourselves after declaring our intentions – oh the pressure to transform!😂🤣🤷‍♀️

      And while I do agree with sharing our good and positive goals with people who will help us stay on track, we know who can help us, it’s more about healthy boundaries in situations that are not so healthy. It can be better to just focus on the change and provide an explanation when necessary (and maybe help avoid a disagreement or any resistance )😉

      Have a colorful weekend❣️ Loved your post.

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  3. It depends on the relationship, but in general I like to keep my changes quiet for awhile, to see if they are going to stick… once I have success with something though, I like to share I order to maybe help someone else. Have a great weekend, Teri. 💕

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