Authentic Living, Awareness, Choices, Mindfulness, Personal Resonsibility

The Subtle Trap of Texting. Can It Wait?

Texting is king. The new communication vein, delivered with lightning speed and removing traditional delays for delivery and response. Depending on your style, you may or may not immediately respond to texts. I feel it’s a matter of personality, health, and lifestyle. Some people are open to interruptions and actually feel refreshed after a small distraction and some simple tasks are much easier to return to than ones demanding creativity or high concentration.

Always remember, your focus determines your reality”

George Lucas

I enjoy texting but my preferred method of communication is in person, face to face. I appreciate facial expressions and the subtleties of intonation and how the rise and fall in a voice tells me so much more. I search the eyes for the true depth of what the words are trying to relate.

Because of this, when texting, I’m fond of emojis to support my intent because words in texts are one dimensional and can easily be misunderstood or mistaken based on the recipient’s emotional state or past experience.

Frankly, I’m not quick to respond to texts but it took practice to build confidence that I wasn’t offending or angering other people. The truth is, I refuse to have my phone in-hand at all times, unless I’m separated from my family for emergency calls. Not because I don’t love my family and adore my friends, but it started as a safeguard to keep me from getting addicted to my phone and stay more engaged to what’s right in front of me.

Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful. And time is short.”

Adam Hochschild

Also, I have certain hours I reserve for productive time. If I’m in the middle of a task, I prefer to stay focused and finish it thoroughly before enjoying fun distractions. If it’s an emergency, I’ve advised the texter to call twice and that alerts me the call is crucial and I’ll answer.

As far as answering texts, I work through the texts when my time frees up and do my best to respond by the end of the day. Why do I resist responding to every text ping? Because texting is so available and immediate that I would be distracted all day and not only be less productive, but the delays would inevitably lead to rushing, which feels horrible.

We’ve free choice of how we use texting and in turn, we can’t expect everyone to confirm to our own. For this reason, I suggest you share your texting habits to avoid potential conflict or misunderstandings. Most of my friends realize I don’t immediately reply if engaged and know this is just how I roll.

My concern is that society has grown so accustomed to the immediacy of texting and other direct messaging that expectations have exploded off the charts demanding an instant reply along with the risk of offending people if you don’t. It adds pressure to daily living, as if there isn’t already enough.

I say, “To each their own” with texting. I stay true to my needs and try to use my phone for the purpose it was designed to serve. It’s a device used to stay connected to people not the device itself.

Keep it Simple,

Just Teri

14 thoughts on “The Subtle Trap of Texting. Can It Wait?”

        1. Oh you’re SO right. It has quickly lost value and been abandoned! I think about how 100 years ago when it truly was an art form like you said. It was a special ritual.

          Great point👍🏻😊

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  1. Extremely important post. Whether it is texting or email, there is a need to respond immediately. I can be guilty of this, in terms of texting or email. But, I have learnt over the years to ‘sit on it’. Unless it a message from the boss wanting something immediate.

    Great post.

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  2. I must admit, I am terrible at responding quickly 😀 I can see how texts can easily be misinterpreted compared to face to face, so I use emojis a lot too.

    Also did you know today is World Emoji Day? Happy emoji day!!

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    1. I didn’t know it was world emoji day…😊🤗🎉

      Thanks for commenting Sam. I admit I’m impressed with the quick responders but I’m not one, because I easily lose my focus!!
      I guess maintaining harmony will be a matter of accepting and forgiving opposing styles?? 😉😊

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  3. I’m at the other end on this one. I hate talking on the phone with a passion so texts have saved me from those for the most part. Phone calls end up taking way longer than texts because I feel compelled to do small talk so as not to be rude. A five second text vs. A half hour phone conversation saves me time big time lol. Face to face is always preferred but not always possible since my friends are scattered around. Of course my extroverted friends want phone calls so sometimes we compromise. Just my two cents. 😄❤

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    1. Hi Janet🤗

      Oh agree with phone calls and I’m intentional in making or receiving them because you’re right, being separated with distance, calls are more personal than texts.

      Thanks for your two cents ❣️I’m a blend of intro/extrovert so I love when you represent the introverts 😉❤️

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  4. You a so right. And people who create single line texts which generate more sound notifications. And those who keep a text engagement high while not being on the point. Could it have been en email instead? Yes it could have been!

    People should also be sensitive to calling. I refrain from texting so many people because they call as a reply. Calling is intrusive, it means “stop whatever you are doing and listen to me right now”. It has an aggression to it.

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    1. Oh my goodness – YES 🤣😂🤪 those text longs for single liners. Great points! Let’s not assume we all have the same texting habits.

      There are so many layers to texting and it exploded before we could digest and create solid texting manners. Right ? 😂

      Thanks for your comment

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